She gave him an STD, he was spotted with another woman, she threw the keys of his Lamborghini out the window, he said he was going to kill her....the rumors bustling around Chris Brown and Rihanna's recent domestic violence case are multiplying by the minute all over people's lips and fingertips as they yap away in the world's blogosphere.
And here I am, asking myself....How can so many people be missing the point???
The question that needs to be adressed is not whether Rihanna was flirting with Kanye or Timbaland, but why are a 20 and a 19 year old (Read KIDS) involved in a case of domestic violence. What ever happened to puppy love?
Now sadly, if human beings sometimes need direction to make their own opinions and guide their behaviors, I am even more ashamed to see how the media is handling this situation, nurturing gossip instead of tackling the bigger issue that is at hand.
Domestic violence is inexcusable. PERIOD.
What strikes me the most is that in a 2007 Giant Magazine interview , Chris Brown finally spoke up about his own childhood, growing up with his abusing step-father.
" He used to hit my mom, he made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself...I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was gonna go crazy on him one day. I hate him to this day."
Domestic violence is a cycle that needs to be broken.
Unfortunately, the incident between Chris Brown and Rihanna is nothing but a reflection of millions of other women (and men) who are victims of domestic violence. Only for most of them, their cries resonate with guilt and silence.
Producers, writers and TV hosts alike have a responsibilty to raise awareness and to give a voice to all these people. Instead of spreading gossip, they should use our interest in this celebrity-related story and give out the resources that are available to help both victims and abusers all around the world.
As to ridiculous bloggers, self-proclaimed insiders and Perez Hilton wannabes, who are you to judge two people you hardly know but through the cover of a reality-distorted magazine. Everyone who has been in love knows that no relationship comes without its share of pain. Instead of gushing on others left and right, why are we not helping eachother out?
Perhaps our obsession with celebrities has become so grand that making the world a better place is something that no one cares about anymore.
So let us gossip away and feed ourselves on the back of other people's problems in the name of entertainment.
On this note, I will leave you with some food for thought from an author I love dearly, Don Miguel Ruiz:
"Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison. We learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were children, we heard the adults around us gossiping all the time, openly giving their opinions about other people. They even had opinions about people they didn't know. Emotional poison was transferred along with the opinions, and we learned this as a normal way to communicate.
Gossiping has become the main form of communication in human society. It has become the way we feel close to each other, because it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as badly as we do. There is an old expression that says 'Misery likes company,' and people who are suffering in hell don't want to be alone. Fear and suffering are an important part of the dream of the planet; they are how the dream of the planet keeps us down."